The Mental Trick You Can Use to Become More Resilient and Confident

Building unshakable confidence and layers of resiliency starts with this mental shift.

Abundance is commonly accepted as something that helps us live more fulfilling lives. But why?

Simply, it’s because operating in a state of abundance leads to a growth mindset. While operating in a state of scarcity leads to a fixed mindset that places invisible ceilings on your potential.

Abundance, as Stephen Covey describes it in his classic book The Seven Principles of Highly Effective People, is something that:

Flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.

When it comes to scarcity, Covey states:

Most people are deeply scripted in what I call Scarcity Mentality. They see life as having only so much, as though there were only one pie out there. And if someone were to get a big piece of the pie, it would mean less for everybody else. The Scarcity Mentality is the zero-sum paradigm of life.

When it comes to developing confidence and building more resiliency, approaching life with an abundance mentality is essential. When you’re looking to adopt this mentality, it starts with these four critical factors:

1. Look for the silver lining in every situation.

Each day you wake up, something will happen not according to plan, someone will tempt you emotionally and will likely try to steal your joy.

There’s nothing you can do about this.

While you can’t control the people or situations around you, you can control your response. More importantly, you can choose to extract the positive out of the situation and use that to grow as a person.

Situations, games, business quarters, health, and many other facets of your life won’t roll in your favor 100 percent of the time, but even then, there’s always a silver lining to the situation (even if it’s marginal).

Choose optimism, search for the silver lining, and remember that all things contribute to your advancement.

2. Keep the big picture in mind.

I’m an author and operate in the health and fitness industry. With a scarcity mindset, I would most likely quit what I’m doing because there are millions of fitness books in existence along with many other health and fitness consultants.

You’re a business owner, a high-performing professional, or part of a startup, and guess what, there are countless others similar to you, and that’s only increasing.

However, when you’re approaching life with an abundance mindset, you’ll realize that though you’re in the same line of work as others, you’re not the same because no two individuals are alike. There are billions of people in this world and those people will resonate with different voices, methods, philosophies, and approaches, even if the desired result is similar.

There is plenty for everyone. Everyone has a unique gift and voice that can specifically help others out.

3. Freely share with others.

When you lead and operate out of scarcity, then you’re only going to receive more scarcity. But when you give freely, you not only feel better about yourself, but you’ll also start receiving more.

Call it magic, the law of attraction, the law of reciprocity, or anything else. The sooner you learn to let go and give more, the quicker abundance will start growing in all areas of your life.

To get started, make it a goal to share something once a day. This doesn’t have to be money, it could be an encouraging note to someone, a thank you letter or email to someone you admire, or giving 30 minutes to someone who wants to “pick your brain.”

4. Reduce and be more mindful of your media consumption.

If you’re constantly consuming media through various social channels and television, you’re constantly in “consumer mode” instead of “producer mode,” where creativity happens.

Hence, you run the risk of catching tunnel vision and furthering the chances of scarcity thinking because you think there isn’t anything that can be added. Some will say that consuming ample amounts of media is motivation. While it may fire you up at first, eventually it leads to comparison and lack of action and worth.

The question to ask yourself is why are you consuming this media? And how does it make you feel, while consuming and afterward?

When you become abundant, you believe you can have it all. Choose the path of abundance and experience more happiness, richer relationships, better health, and greater success in business.

 

Credits: inc.com

10 Harmless Habits to Drop If You Want to Be Successful

1. Saying Yes When You Want to Say No

If a project, partnership or opportunity doesn’t resonate with you and does not feel aligned with your values and your goals, you need to be comfortable about setting boundaries. Learn how to say no with kindness right from the start because, as you become more successful, more people will compete for your time and attention. Not setting healthy boundaries will end up in overwhelm and burnout.

2. Hanging Onto People Who Don’t Want to Grow

For business owners especially, the people who got your company to where you are today may not be the ones to get you to where you want to be tomorrow. If they can’t grow with you, it’s time to replace them with those who can.

3. Working Through Lunch

Working through lunch is a habit I find a lot of business owners take on. Most justify it with, “If I work through lunch, I’ll just leave a few minutes early” and that isn’t what ends up happening. It’s hard to disconnect midday, especially if you’re in a productive spurt, but it’s important to take a few minutes to recharge. Not doing so will lower your productivity and lead to burnout faster.

4. Failing to Exercise

If you fail to exercise, that lack of discipline will translate into other areas of your life, including your business. When you exercise, you are more alert and sharp, and you will operate at a higher level.

5. Multitasking

It is technically impossible to multitask. When you try to do multiple things at once, you effectively take away full attention and concentration from anything, and you shortchange whatever it is you are doing.

6. Pinging People

In a perfect world, everything you do would be working toward some goal (even if it is recharging on the couch). Sending emails that do not advance a relationship because you want to “ping” them or “touch base” is at best useless and could be harmful. There are definite exceptions where being on someone’s mind is valuable, but try to connect it with value creation or a mutual memory.

7. Striving for Perfection

I often let the perfect become the enemy of the good. The result is that I have a lot of projects that are still in the “development” queue, while I continually refine them. The fact is, however, most defects that I see are not elements that others will see. I am working on letting go of the hesitation to perfect everything that I work on.

8. Not Protecting Your Recharge Time

If you’re a workaholic, it can be easy to let your own time get taken over by work, over and over until you’re not taking any time for yourself. This may seem like it’s making you more efficient, but it will start quickly doing the opposite. There’s no faster way to burn out. Don’t fall into the habit of denying yourself the time you need to recharge.

9. Immediately Answering PMs and Emails

This is by far the largest problem with many people achieving success, especially on a day-to-day basis. If you answer an email or PM, you should be committed to it, or it’ll quickly take you away from whatever task you are completing at the moment, hindering success. Plan periods every hour or two to answer daily emails or PMs.

10. Not Prioritizing Your Day

I recently started using The Productivity Planner and it’s changed everything for me. It forces you to actually sit down and only pick a few things you’re going to get done, especially the things that often end up getting punted from day to day. Before that, I was letting my calendar and to-do list run my day and never felt like I was getting the important stuff done.

 

Credits: success.com

 

If you wanna change the world, start off by making your bed

If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day.

It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task, and another, and another.

By the end of the day, that one task completed, will have turned into many tasks completed.

Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that the little things in life matter.

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A woman made an incredible prediction to Denzel Washington.

March 27, 1975

“Somebody get me a pen, get me a pencil, I have a Prophecy!”

“Boy, you are going to travel the world and speak to millions of people.”

You only live once, so do what you feel passionate about… don’t be afraid to fail.

Click on the Play button and watch this incredible video.

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